What a pleasant surprise when I attended a typical ‘pre clubbing’ promotional dinner last night and found myself surrounded by six foot tall, glamorous, successful women. And no, this wasn’t a cut scene from Lipstick Jungle (which my TiVo’s stored and I plan to watch and mock, tomorrow [series review here]). I had actually landed at an all girls dinner party. No men allowed.

What happened to the idea of ‘girls only?’

In my life, it died somewhere after single sex summer camp. And as a hormonal teenager, ‘only girls’ is deemed brutal, bitchy and boring. In NYC, it seems women are constantly pitted against one another. We’re competing for jobs, men, attention and that last pair of size seven shoes. I’ve had fellow women in a huff try to take me out with their handbag or casually toss my jacket on the floor. When was the last time a girl was friendly to a fellow New York female at a bar? Or even engaged one another in conversation?

One of the more perverted aspects of the Manhattan clubbing circuit (and yes, there are many) is how women inevitably end up looking like accessories to men power-tripping on bottles of Grey Goose. And this isn’t just about who’s forking over the cash. Even if women were buying the liquor, if a man’s present, we automatically see it in the paradigm of ‘his table’ and ‘his harem.’

This women as ‘going-out ornaments’ mentality isn’t only degrading (yes, most of have jobs, pay our rent, and have to wake up in the morning) but fuels competition among women to be the shiniest piece of tinsel in the bunch.

Hence my overwhelming joy and approval when the woman who organized our dinner informed me that she was scheming to get successful New York women playing on the same team. Not only is she entrepreneurially launching her own nightclub in Nolita, she’s creating a social networking site for girls only. In her words:

Femme Fatale is New York’s premiere networking club exclusively for women. A femme fatal exemplifies the New York sophisticate. Our members are hand chosen because they’re the most striking, intelligent, adventurous, fun-loving spirits the city has to offer. Our goal is to indulge the ultimate lifestyle and expose cultured and accomplished women to a network of equally savvy women, while spoiling them with the extravagances provided by our luxury brand sponsors. Our mission is to inspire women to continually seek success, be independent, and provide each other with support and opportunities. There are many exclusive men’s clubs out there, and it’s about time women enjoyed the same distinct opportunity to expand their professional and social horizons.

The day women start organizing their own social activities paid for by brand spronsors will be a tragic one for the sleazy New York club promoter who feeds off women and clueless baby models to pay his rent. Watch out! Cause it looks like the system’s going to change.

The launch party takes place at Lollipop this Saturday. And make sure to bookmark the website which is coming soon, femmefatalny.com Men, don’t bother